Bits of Sweetness: Learning to love the hair-pulling days

Learning to love the hair-pulling days

Let's face it-being a parent is challenging some days. There are the days full of sweet, incredible melt-your-heart moments, and then there are those days- the kind you want to pull your hair out over. There are the kind of days that might include permanent marker all over the wall, toothpaste all over the bathroom sink, a floury mess all over the kitchen, or a child that is moving at a turtle's pace when you needed to get out the door five minutes ago.
We have a three year old son. I can completely relate. Lately, it seems as if every day is one of those days. Frankly, it is hard to remember the sweet moments when it is the tenth time this week that our son has discovered something else to decorate his rocking chair with. Yesterday it was Oragel. Today it was a pen. Tomorrow it might be chocolate syrup.  One minute alone in the bathroom to wash his hands ensues in a toothpaste masterpiece on the mirror.  Two minutes alone in the kitchen to eat breakfast results in a freight train made out of yogurt blobs spread across the floor.
I would like to think that he knows better. I would like to believe that our careful parenting has left an impact on his life, but I remind myself that he is only three. He has a very short attention span. It is not that he is not learning, but that he is likely to forget in the moment. It is also true that much of the problem lies within our perception of what is “disobedience” and what is not. Could it possibly be that what we view in the moment as “disobedience” is merely God-given curiosity? I think so. Proverbs 22:6 says to, “Train up a child in the way he should go.” That way is speaking of a child’s bent, or personality. Our son has a huge fascination with everything about life. I am convicted and reminded by this verse that it is ok for him to be curious; sometimes he might just need some good redirection!

Recently, I voiced some of my frustrations to a friend. That friend made a comment that made me stop and think. "The moments that drive you crazy are memories that you remember, with love, forever!" It is so true. It made me tear up a little too. This friend truly speaks from the heart. He and his wife lost their precious three-year old son to cancer not long ago. He was their only child. I had the honor of being their son’s teacher for almost a year. He was like my own son, so to say that this family is near and dear to my heart would be an incredible understatement. It was a tremendous loss they endured. I needed to hear that piece of advice. We still have our son, and I know that these frustrating days will soon become fond memories. What a great reminder to cherish each moment no matter how hard, sad or frustrating it may be. Children truly are a gift from God!




~In memory of Christopher~



7 comments :

  1. thanks for stopping by my blog and following! I am excited you live in the PNW!
    How true what your friend said to you on Fb, I just came from my nieces graduation and it was awesome the principal gave a speech and I do not think there was a dry eye...he said some great things, about living in the moment, that everyone always is searching for what will happen in the future that they forget to seize the moment to cherish it.

    I am following you back and cannot wait to get to know you better!

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  2. A wonderful post, something to remember as I am scrubbing crayon off the table legs :)

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  3. Glad I found you, I loved this post. Your friends comment is soooo true, I raised the female version of your Andrew. She's 24 now and when I think back on some of her antics they make me laugh (and some did not then). But now I look at this amazing young woman and I can sometimes see that 3 year old twinkle and love her even more. Looking forward to more posts, love your Andrew already. Caryn

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  4. What a beautiful and thoughtful post. Thanks for sharing and reminding us all.

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  5. ah, i am a bit past this stage. it is a bit daunting. great perspective. dropping by from blog frog. mine is: www.rebeccalynndunning.blogspot.com.

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  6. What a beautiful post. Such an important statement that your friend made. So true. And important reminder. Adorable photos or your sweet little one. Such a sweet photo and tribute to beautiful Christopher! So happy I saw your post on (in)courage blog frog... love your blog! :)

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  7. A sweet post with a good reminder. My oldest daughter gets into EVERYTHING and just yesterday I was thinking how fast they grow up... Soon she'll be gone with a family of her own. Then I'll be wishing that she was dumping her water all over the back of the van or smashing her donut into the seat, or writing all over herself and her sister....It makes me choke up to think about it. I wonder if the ones that have short attention spans and that get into everything are the smart ones? They get bored and curious and thus wreak some "havoc".

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