Bits of Sweetness: Learning through the harder moments in life

Learning through the harder moments in life


Yesterday me & the hubby had a disagreement. ok so it felt like a major one in the middle of it(it wasn't). And,, like every other time I get caught up in "needing" to explain myself, and get my point across. It didn't go over well. (It usually doesn't!)Part of the problem-I (unintentionally) hurt my husband's feelings. He told me. And instead of paying attention ...to the little nudge from God to apologize,I ignored it, and explained away/chastised him for letting it hurt him. It didn't go over well at all. Afterwards, God was really working on my heart and convicting. I slowly began to realize that you know what, it doesn't matter that I unintentionally hurt his feelings. I need to take responsibility for my actions and apologize! The point isn't to make a point. It's to care. It has been & is a learning process but it's neat to see how he is responding! What have you been realizing lately?
 
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up.
1 Thessalonians 5:11

1 comment :

  1. I have learned after almost 20 years of marriage that my need to explain myself is more a need to be validated, to know that he is hearing my heart. Too often, I will close my ears to what he's saying because I am already crafting my next sentence. So now I am quiet and try to really listen and he does the same for me. It took a lot of raised voices and tears before we got to that place but marriage is a work in progress. I am learning that I don't have to always be right which crucifies my flesh every time. Thanks for the post! It really made me think.

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